Getting back into the dating loop after a break that has lasted years or even decades is bound to pose it's challenges. Factoring age into the mix and starting to date again when you're over 50 can be a very daunting proposition. Modern society encourages us to be settled down by our Thirties, and that's that for the rest of our lives. We know how life works and unfortunately, it's not always that simple. More and more people are getting back onto the dating scene in their 50's for a variety of reasons and why the heck shouldn't they. If the average person lives until their late 70's now, why would you want to spend the last Twenty years of your life alone
Unlike other dating event companies, we heavily focus on events for those over 50 and they often prove to be our most popular events.
As a single person over 50, you may have taken a break from dating for a number of reasons; perhaps you're recently divorced, widowed or you simply weren't ready or in the mood to date. There's no need to justify your reasoning - the only proof you need to start dating again is that you feel ready to do so.
At True Dating we have designed our events to help people meet other single people in a relaxed and friendly environment, which enables them to build meaningful connections during the event. Dating events can be nerve racking, we fully appreciate that, so with our hosts on hand we really take pride in how welcome we make everyone feel, which in turn allows them to be their true selves. You'll always have plenty of people to meet and as everyone is in the same boat it's much easier than you'd think to make a connection.
If you're looking to start dating again over 50, there can often be a variety of things holding you back and in turn crush your confidence when it comes to putting yourself out there to meet your next great love. Our best tip, having met thousands of single people at our events, is to stop worrying what everyone else thinks and be confident in yourself and what you really want. It's always best to attend our events with an open mind and a positive attitude, what you put into the event is ultimately what you'll get back.
We get it. Like with anything in life, if we really want something we want it now! Unfortunately, life doesn't quite work like that. Have we had people meet their special someone at their 1st event? Yes, absolutely. But the truth is for most people they will need to attend multiple events before they meet someone which ends up in a relationship. It's like looking for a job, you wouldn't just apply for a couple then give up. You must be persistent. That doesn't mean having to go to events every week, but you may well need to attend more than a couple to find your perfect match.
The idea that the dating pool is made up of young 20 something's a real myth. And the truth is most people under 30 have grown up using dating apps, so that's where they tend to meet people. For those over 30's, and certainly over 50's the old-fashioned way of meeting people in real life is still the #1 preference. That's not to say we wouldn't recommend also trying dating apps as for some people it's the only way they can meet people. But for most over 50's dating events are a great way to meet people face to face and there's probably far more choice than perhaps when you were last on the dating scene.
Another view that we occasionally hear is that people who were used to meeting someone in a bar or at work find the idea of attending a structured dating event some what un-romantic. Now that's not to say we don't believe you can still meet someone in the old fashioned way, at work or through a friend. But as times shift, men in particular do feel less comfortable with approaching women in public places and certainly in the workplace. Whereas at a dating event you know everyone is single and there for the same reason you are. It takes away the pressure and anxiety you may feel about talking to someone you like and want to ask out on a proper date.
Furthermore, just because you meet your next partner at a dating event, it doesn't mean that the relationship has to be any less romantic. Where you meet someone honestly has no bearing on the success of the relationship. It certainly makes a good story to tell your friends. But it won't define how your relationship turns out. As with dating apps, it's just the norm now to have met someone outside of the traditional places we used to meet people so again don't worry about what other people may think.
Unfortunately this is another common theme we find with people over 50 starting again on the dating scene. They feel that because they have a past, a failed marriage or kids, that this may put people off. First of all, we all have doubts and insecurities, regardless of age or gender. Remember when you were 15 and you thought no one would ever date you because of the way you looked? Well, in some ways, the anxieties and insecurities you're feeling now are just as valid as the ones you experienced in your teens in the sense that most people won't even be thinking of them, but they manifest in our own minds and thus feel like huge hurdles to get over.
A huge benefit of attending a True Dating event is that the vast majority of people who attend our events will be of a similar age to you. Therefore, since most over 50's have gone through multiple difficult breakups, a divorce or have recently been widowed you'll find that you have much more common than not. Authenticity and openness are crucial here, and when we show our vulnerable side, it often makes us appear more lovable. Some of our best dating advice for women and men over 50 is that if you are worried about martial status and other things, talk about them with your special someone and ask if they have ever felt the same. Sharing in this vulnerability is bound to build a deep connection in the form of friendship and maybe more.
And the truth is, if you meet someone who doesn't have any "baggage" or history and they are over 50 then that would probably be a red flag.
You're as old as you feel. It's a common saying but one we very much believe in. There is no reason as you get into your 50's that you should stop craving that incredible rush to your heart or that unexplained euphoria that makes you feel alive! True love really doesn't discriminate based on your age. At 50+, just like at 20, you can fall in love without reservation. No matter how old you are, falling in love will always be overwhelming - a dream like state that envelops you when you least expect it. It's a mystery and it takes you to places you may never have been too...
We started True Dating because we wanted to create these magical moments for people. We have helped forge hundreds of couples over the years and age has never held anyone back who is truly ready to find someone new.
If you're over 50 and heading back on the dating scene, it's fair to assume you may have come out of a long-term relationship. Depending on how long this relationship lasted you may be getting ready to date again for the first time in decades. It's daunting trying to figure out how different the dating scene must be compared to the last time you tried it.
This is why a True Dating event is precisely the thing you need to help you take baby steps back into the dating world. You've probably already spent a lot of time thinking if you're ready to start dating again but maybe don't know where to start. You may have tried the online dating world and quickly realised it isn't for you. Finding someone special should be a bit more romantic than swiping left and right and having tedious conversations online.
Finding someone special requires the right formula, so if it hasn't happened yet, don't be discouraged - the fact you're even on this site shows you're taking active steps to do something about it. But there is no rush! True Dating wants to make sure you're 100% ready for this new adventure. It's really important to listen to yourself and figure out your expectations. Ask yourself: I'm over 50- what kind of relationship am I looking for? A true romance or a meaningful relationship? What do you bring to this relationship and what do you expect from your new partner? It's genuinely up to you, and you alone, to decide what level or romance you're ready to share.
Dating events are going through a revolution. Everywhere you go, potential lovers are connecting all over London as dating app fatigue kicks in. The pandemic may just have been the shot in the arm for the dating world that we needed. It showed that human beings need and want human interaction. Dating online is convenient and for some with busy lives the only way they can really date. But fortunately if you live in a city like London dating online is just one option to meet people.
Due to the popularity of our events, we now run them on a weekly basis and in 2023 will further expand with more events during the week. There is clearly a real desire for people, particularly those over 50, to make up for all the time lost during the Pandemic. People from all backgrounds, races and religions are attending our events for one simple reason: they actually work!
And the advantage of running Hundreds of events per year is that we know what makes a great event and how to help people get the most out of the night. We pick suitable venues, with enough space to sit or stand and typically no loud music. We have our hosts on hand to make introductions throughout the night. And we even offer a free welcome drink at our Singles Parties to get the conversations flowing.
Being completely ready for romance is a matter of self-confidence and your attitude towards life. Love smiles at those who take care of themselves! If you stay at home or only go out with friends down the pub, it's very unlikely you'll meet your next great love affair. It's called a comfort zone for a reason!
Think about being in a room where you know everyone is single? Would you not instantly feel your chances of meeting someone would be greatly improved. And would you also not feel far more comfortable approaching and flirting with someone if everyone else in the room was doing the same thing. There's a an amazing energy about our speed dating and singles parties that can't be replicated anywhere else.
Love after 50 is about being yourself. Whether you just want some instant passion, companionship, sex or even a romantic relationship - just know that all this is being reinvented every day. There is no righteous path to love. Every day new people are joining the dating pool, looking for something special. Life has already taught you that it is simply a matter of living in the present and sharing delightful moments together, that's all that counts.
We have two types of events: Speed Dating and Singles Parties. Luckily we have events for over 50's in both categories so why not try both. Only then will you really know which event suits you best.
Whichever one you do attend, just go there, and enjoy yourself. There is no pressure at our events to meet someone and just the simple fact you are back out there dating again is the first step to you meeting your next great love!
To see a list of all our upcoming events, click here: https://truedating.co.uk/events